Mother Marries Own Son | The Zimbabwe Mail

Restraining my horror and disbelief, I attempted to get this scoop “Snoped” but my search yielded no results. Browsing the comments below the article, I learnt it’s been recycled from about a year before, but found nothing which refutes its contents. So is this story true? If it is then surely it’s consentual incest of the highest degree.

Initially wondering if it might be culturally acceptable in Zimbabwe, I was relieved to find out (at the end of the article) this isn’t so. In fact, it’s considered an offence so heinous, deemed fit for expeditious obliteration by the village council in the old days. But now, there are civilized laws to abide by so the eccentric couple was given a choice – stop their preposterous marriage plan or leave their village. They chose the latter.

Nagging Questions:

1. The simplest question – can they really get married?
Is there any place or country where a biological mother and son can be lawfully married? I’ll be utterly stunned if there is.

2. Is the mother in her right mind?
I can’t help thinking perhaps she’s suffering from mental illness which adversely clouds her judgement. Insanity has got to be the explanation for such absurdity.

Isn’t a mother supposed to protect her offspring from harm instead of being the perpetrator? I can’t believe this mother had an incestuous affair with her own son, which resulted in her carrying his child. And due to this, they’ve decided to “legalize” their relationship by getting married. They’re going to have the baby! Even babies borne of cousins run high risks of birth defects. What more a child conceived by a biological mother and son? Supposing they’re blessed with a normal, healthy baby, imagine the mental anguish he or she would endure knowing he or she was the product of such an unnatural relationship. Mother or grandmother? Father or brother?

The mother steadfastly defended her actions stating she has the right to “enjoy the fruits of her sweat” for single-handedly bringing up her son the last 12 years since her husband’s untimely demise. Though moving with the times, this opinion is commonplace in Asian cultures too whereby parents bring up their children in the hope in return they’ll take care of the parents in their old age. However, I’ve not heard of any parent who won’t allow their children to get married for fear of “losing” what is “owed” to them, let alone get involved in incest with them to keep them from fleeing the nest. Most cases reported here are rape of daughters by lecherous fathers (and that’s a different tragedy altogether).

3. What of the son?
What does the son truly think of all of this? Is he really comfortable with it and think it’s the right thing to do? Maybe.

He admitted deciding to bare-it-all and marry his mother because he’d made her pregnant and wanted to stem any allegations of her being licentious.

From the article, I’m unsure of the level of education he’s achieved and what job he’s working now but I’m of the impression he’s doing pretty well. Being educated, he must realize this is so wrong in every possible way. Perhaps his mother has been brainwashing him for a long time and he is therefore an unfortunate victim. Or perhaps he’s also insane. I guess we might never know.

In Sum
Although I consider myself rather liberal, I can’t help but cringe at the thought of this couple. Nonetheless, I wish them well for who am I to judge others? Hopefully, they’ll someday soon realize their folly and repent. I also wish the innocent baby well. May he or she by some miracle be free from such encumbrance.

No child asks to be born. We as parents are the ones who either intentionally or otherwise bring them forth into this world. Therefore, it is our duty to care for and educate them towards independence, without expecting any repayment. If we do this lovingly, judiciously, and unconditionally, the children usually would reciprocate out of their own accord because what goes around, comes around.
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The Article:

The Zimbabwe Mail: 40-Years-Old Zimbabwean Mother Set To Marry Own Son
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Staff Reporter on 2013-08-29 15:07:00

MASVINGO – A 40-year-old Zimbabwean woman and mother is set to marry her own son and the pair claim to be very much in love with each other.

And now they want to take their relationship to the next level and get married considering that the mother, Betty Mbereko (from Mwenezi in Masvingo) is now six months pregnant and expecting her son’s child and her grand child.

Mbereko, 40, has been a widow for the past 12 years and has been living with her 23-years-old son Farai Mbereko.

She confirms that she is six month pregnant and that she has decided it is better to “marry” her son because she does not want to marry her late husband’s young brothers, whom she says are coveting her.

Betty stunned a village court last week when she said the affair with her son had begun three years earlier.

She said after spending a lot of money sending Farai to school following the death of her husband, she felt she had a right to his money and no other woman was entitled to it.

“Look, I strove alone to send my son to school and no one helped me. Now you see that my son is working and you accuse me of doing something wrong. Let me enjoy the products of my sweat,” she told the village court council.

Farai said he was more than prepared to marry his mother and would pay off the ilobola balance his father had left unpaid to his grandparents.

“I know my father died before he finished paying the bride price and I am prepared to pay it off,” he said. “It is better to publicise what is happening because people should know that I am the one who made my
mother pregnant. Otherwise they will accuse her of promiscuity.”

But local headman Nathan Muputirwa says: “We cannot allow this to happen in our village, mashura chaiwo aya, (This is a bad omen indeed). In the past they would have to be killed but today we cannot do it because we are afraid of the police.”

He warned them to immediately break off their marriage or leave his village. They chose the latter and have since left the village for an undisclosed destination.

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